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| Siblings Siblings are a big part of our lives and that is why I writing about it. My number one reason for writing about it is because so many people are unhappy or are frustrated with their siblings. With so many things going on in our everyday lives, a lot of us don't have time to think anymore. This is where I come in  .
I'll do the thinking for ya. Most of the hatred and frustrations are due
to the fact that most people make it more complicated than it really is.
Once I explain it to you what a sibling really is, you will look at your
siblings differently. You will most likely have a better relationship
with them.Lets start out by defining the true definition of a sibling............ A sibling is nothing more than another human being on this earth. You guys just happens to have the same parents. Whether they are your siblings or an outsider, all human beings have flaws. We all have our needs and wants. As with all life forms on this planet, survival is our number one goal. You are born with the personality you are born with and so are they. You did not choose them and they did not choose you. You might want your parents to give you a baby sister or a baby brother, that is not what I mean by "choosing". What I mean by choosing is you did not get to choose the personality that they were born with. This is the very reason why so many people have issues with their siblings. All human beings live in their own little reality and they almost always will have a different perspective in life. This is the reason why so many siblings butt heads. From what I know, almost all parents teach their kids the same things, which is, to be kind to your brothers and sisters. Treat each other with respect. Look out for each other and so on so forth. If you are asking, "if we are all taught the same, then why don't my siblings treat me the same way I treat them?". I would do anything for them so why don't they treat me the same? Here's your answer. All human beings have flaws. No matter what your parents have taught them, they will still do what they want or need to do. All humans are taught many things and was given many rules to go by but as you know, not all humans follow rules or teachings. Humans are usually arrogant, ignorant, greedy, selfish, lazy, and envious. These are some of the biggest flaws of being human. Your other biggest battle with another human being is their need to survive as a living creature. Let me give you my own personal experience with siblings. I have two sisters and one brother. The pecking order goes like this(oldest to youngest): sister/brother/me/sister. My parents are very common people. Their teaching is also very common. Be good to each other, help each other out, etc. Everything is pretty normal so far. Here is where it gets all screwed up. As with a lot of parents, the oldest and the youngest gets better treatment. Some kids get better treatment based on their abilities or looks. Let me give you a run down of me and siblings. Of all four kids, I'm not the oldest or the youngest. I'm not the one that brings home the most bacon either. I'm also not the best looking of all four kids. My sorry ass just happen to have parents that play favoritism so I always got the short end of the stick. When I was young, I used to always get into trouble. Not that it is any of my fault because I did not create myself. I was born with a certain type of personality. It ain't my fault and I can't help it. I do not hate my parents nor am I envious of my siblings. They do what they do and I do what I do. If I can help them out and they can help me out, that's great. If not, that is just how it is and I'm not going to lose any sleep over something I can't change and neither should you. If you have great siblings, I'm happy for you. If you have siblings that treat you like an outsider, you're just not that lucky. I have spoke to a lot of people who have siblings that are doing better than them and they are angry that their siblings is not helping them out. Here's my advice. There are many ways to look at it. Here's one. Your sibling did not choose you and you did not choose them. You guys are related by blood and was brought up under the same roof. That's about it. If they choose to treat an outsider better than you, that is just how their brain is wired. It is very likely that they get more satisfaction by helping an outsider because an outsider does not expect it from them and therefore, are more grateful. Most people have their own definition of sibling. You might be one that aren't very thankful if your sister give you a helping hand because you think that is their job because she is your sister. Your sister might have a different definition of a sibling and think you are ungrateful. This is where it usually go wrong. Anything my brother and sister does for me, I look at it as a bonus. Whatever they don't want or can't do for me, I see it as no big deal. If you refer back to the things I said up above, this is a realistic way of looking at your siblings. How your parents raise all of you is one thing, how each siblings' mind work is another. Here is an actual message I sent to my sister one X-Mas. "Even though you did not choose to be my sister, you are doing a wonderful job and I thank you". Here is another way to look at your siblings. If you have siblings that are doing well on their own, you should be glad even though they are not helping you out. There are many people out there with siblings that are always in need. Life is hard enough as it is. If you have screwed up siblings that are always running to you for help and dragging you down with them, you are S.O.L .
I won't tell you how you should treat your siblings. That is for you guy's
destiny to decide. If you want to help them out, great. If you don't feel
you should, then they are S.O.L .If you have great siblings, let them know how lucky you are to have them in your life. Let me remind you again, they did not choose to be your brother or sister. If you have crappy siblings, say nothing and let it be. If they are always trying to use you or cause you trouble, do whatever you feel is right. I will not tell you to be evil to your siblings. Like any other human being on this earth, stay away from the ones that are trying to cause you harm. There is no need to get angry or get evil. Understand and accept the life you were given. To not understand it or accept it will drive yourself insane. Life is very unfair in many ways. Learn it and deal with it in a more intelligent manner. Here's another thing. If you truly love your siblings, you would keep yourself out of trouble and not burden them with your problems. If they want to help you, you are very lucky. If they say screw you, you are S.O.L . If you have
done your very best and things still doesn't work out, it is still not
your fault. You can use it as an excuse to screw up your life and ask
others for help but I tell you what... you can think and do anything you
want in this life, you are still the one that has to live with it should
it backfire on you. A sibling is nothing more than a human being and no
human beings are guaranteed to be stable or live a long healthy life.
If you are free loading off your siblings, good luck to you. I tell you
what... in the end, you are the only person in this world you can truly
depend on.Life is so much easier if siblings can work together as a team. Blood should be thicker than water but not always. It is also in your best interest to have a good relationship with your siblings because blood is "usually" thicker than water. When all hell breaks loose, your family members are usually the ones that will be there for you and vise versa. There is something very special about sharing the same blood with another human being. No outsider will ever match that. If you are a single child and are bummed out that you don't have siblings, it isn't all bad because not all siblings get along. Sometimes it is much better to be the only child. Being the only child also has its drawbacks as well. Any problems you are having with your siblings, this article should explain it all if you fully understand the words that are coming out of my mouth .
If you still can't figure it out and are still having problems with your
siblings, email me and I'll try to help you out (no charge).I have one last advice for you. Try the understanding and loving approach. You just might be surprised as to how well it works. No guarrantees though. It really depends on their personality. Loving and understanding is usually the best approach when you're dealing with another human being. We humans love to be understood . |
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